Loneliness in old age and looking back at life, at conduct of others makes the old age a burden. In old age : One MUST equip himself to like 'himself' ! By that time the world has already shown its true colours to you. You have known- Nothing is mine. Problem is -one co-relates this knowledge with reference to 'others' conduct' ! One learns this knowledge by disgust, sorrow, and disliking and starts pointing fingers at others. That does not let you "accept" ..."Nothing is mine. I have no relationship with any body." You take this knowledge with a pinch of salt. When you do so , you can't 'accept' it. You have merely 'learnt' it.
If we just think: There is no relationship of mine with any body, because this world is made like that only, then you shall not find culprits of your choice. You shall see the world as a whole and shall not draw distinction between 'my relatives... wife/son' and 'others' ! In fact both are 'others' only vis-a-vis your 'self' . You shall observe/ discriminate the entire world including your own body as one side, and your 'self' as other side. You shall become EQUANIMOUS. Once you do that your vision shall become clearer, negativity shall vanish and 'acceptance' shall become easier.
The discrimination (Viveka) will awaken and you shall proceed towards PEACE very fast. You shall gallop !
Once you start thinking : Why to single out wife or children to be selfish/non- caring and 'not mine'? ..even this body is not mine...in fact 'Nothing is mine'...the pain and sorrow shall instantly vanish. Because then you will be able to appreciate that " you are not alone" ... All have same problem. You shall then be able to renounce easily "mineness" with all and that "all" would include body, wife, children too !!! There will be no pain then of disconnection. There will be no counting then of what you did to others (wife/children) and what others did to you. There will be no distinction between the 'others'. My wife / My sons...Others. There will be no 'haunting memories' coming back to you and shattering your peace. You shall realise - IT IS LIKE THAT ONLY !!!
Your wife and children shall not then appear to you as 'exceptions' and that will take out the 'thorn' from your tender heart. That removes the sorrow from roots.
Doosaro Na Koi - Nothing else is mine- means ALL including body EXCEPT Girdhar Gopal. Once you understand it this way: Where is fault of wife or sons ? All are 'others'...all are 'doosaras' ..all are not yours ...Mere to Girdhar Gopal .... Mine is ONLY God !!!
If we just think: There is no relationship of mine with any body, because this world is made like that only, then you shall not find culprits of your choice. You shall see the world as a whole and shall not draw distinction between 'my relatives... wife/son' and 'others' ! In fact both are 'others' only vis-a-vis your 'self' . You shall observe/ discriminate the entire world including your own body as one side, and your 'self' as other side. You shall become EQUANIMOUS. Once you do that your vision shall become clearer, negativity shall vanish and 'acceptance' shall become easier.
The discrimination (Viveka) will awaken and you shall proceed towards PEACE very fast. You shall gallop !
Once you start thinking : Why to single out wife or children to be selfish/non- caring and 'not mine'? ..even this body is not mine...in fact 'Nothing is mine'...the pain and sorrow shall instantly vanish. Because then you will be able to appreciate that " you are not alone" ... All have same problem. You shall then be able to renounce easily "mineness" with all and that "all" would include body, wife, children too !!! There will be no pain then of disconnection. There will be no counting then of what you did to others (wife/children) and what others did to you. There will be no distinction between the 'others'. My wife / My sons...Others. There will be no 'haunting memories' coming back to you and shattering your peace. You shall realise - IT IS LIKE THAT ONLY !!!
Your wife and children shall not then appear to you as 'exceptions' and that will take out the 'thorn' from your tender heart. That removes the sorrow from roots.
Doosaro Na Koi - Nothing else is mine- means ALL including body EXCEPT Girdhar Gopal. Once you understand it this way: Where is fault of wife or sons ? All are 'others'...all are 'doosaras' ..all are not yours ...Mere to Girdhar Gopal .... Mine is ONLY God !!!
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